You have to COMMAND respect. You do this through your actions. Set boundaries and clap for yourself.
We live in a world where we are encouraged to suppress our emotions. Men and boys in particular, grow up learning and being taught that it is not okay to show emotion, that it is not okay to feel. Their sense of self-love and self-worth is closely associated with things like status, power, money, and getting women. Women don't feel safe being vulnerable, being soft, being in their feminine energy. As a result, we have a large scale imbalance between masculine and feminine energy.
We subconsciously seek out relationships to validate our sense of self-worth, and to make us feel that we deserve to be loved. Since we do not feel that we can create these feelings of safety, security and worthiness within ourselves, we continuously rely on others to make us feel this way. This co-dependent behaviour, often invites unhealthy power dynamics that are meant to awaken us to our true power.